There’s so much to plan for a wedding! Just as you get the hang of it, you are saying your vows in a whirlwind of a day! My sweet In-laws had their 45th wedding anniversary this year and we had a day of listening to their wedding service. There were so many fun memories! There was the Organ music that sounded like a dirge, the vows they wrote, what food they served, who made the dresses, and what their ‘going away outfits’ looked like. (Bell bottoms!) It was a lot of fun to walk down their memory lane! I left with one big takeaway. If I could do it all over again, I’d personalize the ceremony a little more. Different processional music, a hand-written letter, or personalized our own vows. I I thought it would be somehow less official if we wrote our own and it wasn’t something I’d ever seen done before. But there you have it!
Reading blogs is a great way to help inform you about your decisions. Also, ask a trusted friend, sister, cousin, or even your photographer for input! Research different variations on songs you already love!
Yes, monograms are pretty but I’m actually talking about the order and content of the ceremony! Sometimes you get the feeling the ceremony is just the hoop you have to jump through to get to the party. It doesn’t have to be that way! Don’t be afraid to make decisions in the ceremony to make it more like your personality! The entire ceremony is filled with opportunities to make it your own. Find a guitarist or a string quartet and branch out musically! 45 years ago it was pretty normal to have organ music that sounded more like a dirge, I walked out to Pachelbel’s Cannon in D, neither things really *spark joy for us to hear or remember. So, while it might be the easier choice to go for “the wedding March”, I promise you won’t regret picking out something a little less common.
Only keep the things that ‘spark joy’ (thanks Marie Kondo)… well, that and the words. You might get crazy nervous about writing and saying something to each other! That’s ok! There are so many things in life that aren’t easy, but they are worth doing! Like climbing a mountain, learning to swim, having children. You won’t regret taking the time to say some beautiful words to your spouse!
“My life is immeasurably better with you in it” -Brain 2013 is probably my favorite line ever and it isn’t from a movie. It’s from a real wedding! Check it out to get some inspiration!
There is nothing I love more as a wedding videographer, than a couple who writes words to each other. It could be in a letter, during the ceremony, or especially the vows! Those words are so meaningful! If there is anything that I learned from my in-laws 45th wedding anniversary it was the personalized vows still rang true. There is something monumental and official about writing out what you vow to do and declaring that you love your spouse!
You don’t have to have 10 great songs, just one or 2. You don’t have to write pages of vows, just a sentence or two. Make it genuine, keep it authentic. Tell your spouse why you are making this choice to love them for the rest of your life.
I know I just said “customize everything” but now I’m reminding you to take all those creative special thoughts and keep them classic and classy! The dresses, the songs, the clothes, the programs, and the vows. (Hot tip: The ceremony is not the time to embarrass your spouse, keep the childhood stories for the reception).
A truly elegant taste is generally accompanied with excellency of heart. – Henry Fielding